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3 Tips to Escape Fear’s Clutches

3 Tips to Escape Fear’s Clutches

Here are 3 tips to help you escape fear’s clutches in all its guises – worry, dread, panic, however it appears to you.

1) Call it out

Ask yourself what exactly am I afraid of. All fear has to do with the prospect  of some kind of loss, loss of money, self esteem, looks, friends, status, control, not gaining something, life. What exactly do you fear losing? It might not seem obvious but there is an answer to this question and when it comes to you that can be a profound step forward.

2) Control Your Body

Fear isn’t all in the mind. It’s a full body response.

When you feel  safe and calm, you breathe evenly, blood pressure normalises and the immune system works at its best.

When we deal with background stress levels as well as our major fears then sleep, appetite, optimism, humour, confidence and all the other physical and mental processes return to normal and we feel we are ready to take on the world.

Get into the habit of relaxing daily. We relax deeply on the outbreath so focus on breathing out for slightly longer than you breath in. When you focus on outbreath then everything slows, deepens and relaxes.

3)  Mindfully Extract Your ‘Self’ From the Fear

Fear, all fear, can be diminished. Generally you might not notice but when you think about what scares you your body tenses and you breathe a bit quicker, your pulse speeds up a little. These physical changes are a consequence of your fear but also reinforce it.

By remaining calm whilst you mindfully ‘watch’ or imagine yourself being calm within the fearful situation you can change the association of that situation, when you are in it for real, from one of fear to one of calm.

Imagining it from a dissociated position is better because it’s been found that seeing yourself from an outside perspective helps take the fear out. When I help people overcome post traumatic stress disorder I need to (along with other elements) help them dissociate so they can watch themselves from the outside in their minds – this helps take the fear from their memory.

These are just a few approaches and there are many ways to ‘resist the temptation’ of fear. Part of that resistance requires personal courage but a big part requires the application of psychological knowledge which the Buddha and other mystics would certainly have had access to.

They say there is ‘nothing new under the sun’. Every fear-mastering psychological technique we now have access to I’m sure were well understood by enlightened people through the ages.

When we teach people about fear and show them how to master it then we help the world.

As Rumi’s teacher,  Shams Tabrizi had it:  “Change your heart to change the world.”

Repost from Mark Tyrrell at FinerMind.com

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